In your brief description of the conversation with your W, you didn't mention anything about you VALIDATING her reason for wanting a D. It showed that you were still interested in what YOU wanted and not her.
" Said that I respect her decision to Divorce, but that I strongly believed we could work through it."
See? This isn't validation. At that time, you need to show her that you understood why she was doing what she was doing and how she feels and was sorry about your actions. Then said you respected her decision to D and then ended it.
"I said it wasn't about going back but moving forward. Talked about some articles that I've read in regards to couples who have made it through affairs."
How many times have you mentioned the word 'I'?
"She did say a couple times that she has moments where she is sad and moments where she hates my guts. That if she had an affair on me, I would want a divorce too and not want to try."
That is another point you should have validated. But when she mentioned that you would have wanted a D, you could have just told her you didn't think so.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
