I've been on the boards since September and do not want to be repetitive. Short summary: H had EA with woman we know 8/12, I found out immediately and he left our home. He was gone until 2/13 and we decided to work it out. In 8/13 I caught him with second phone and asked him to leave. He came back 11/13 (I know too soon), and then left again Christmas Eve at which time I found out he had yet another phone.

The OW texted me when he first came home and spewed alot of information to me as to why I should never want him back, etc. I blocked her number. He told her he was going home where he belonged and not to contact him again. He blocked her number also but then she started sending pics using someone elses phone.

My problem is, he's never told me he doesn't love me, he says I'm the best woman he's ever known. He says the reason he left is because my D18 "used" him for a car and didn't go to the college she stated she was going to and isn't working the job she said she was. This is his only reason. He says he knows he'll have to see her the rest of his life and that he doesn't want to live unhappy for what short life he has left. BTW, she pays her own car note and insurance and does not ask us for anything and she does not live in the home.

I'm very confused. I know at this point I shouldn't even want to be with this man who can't be trusted, but a part of me still does. Any suggestions would be appreciated.


Me-49, H-45
M - 4, Together 9
SS-9
Bomb Dropped - 9/12
Separation - 10/12
Reconcile -2/13
Separation - 8/2013
Reconcile - 10/2013
Separation - 12/2013
Reconcile - 2/14
Separate - 5/14
H Filed D - 8/14