WR, I hate to say this...but you are going to get more of them because they are being hateful. She really doesn't know what she's talking about and when people talk like this, you have to consider the source and just let their lips flap away. Eventually, when you don't respond and/or show that they've rattled your well being, they stop.
Now, if you had come back at her in self defense, I can assure you, she would have been even more nasty. The best thing to do is ignore her and if they continue down this road of harassment, file a claim against her. But, whatever you do, don't tell her you've done it...let it be a surprise.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
