Sorry your H vanished on you. If he ever starts to show up again I hope it is with a cheque. Sounds like he has done incredible damage. And it sounds like you have come through it well.
You sound assuredly done. I envy that actually.
If it makes no legal difference to support etc I don't blame you for not wanting to waste the resources for a divorce. If either of you intend to get remarried you can worry about it then.
