Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

Does anybody feel this way?

Now that I have moved back home I am much much happier than when I was at my Parents house.

I am doing all things I told myself I was going to do. Cleaning, getting things ready to refurbish the house. All things the W said I never do. I pretty much go about my business and let W do her thing.

I still find myself doing things for her that just get done in the midst of taking care of the house. Shoveling the driveway, washing dishes that she left in the sink etc...

Is it ok to do these things since they are being done along with normal day to day stuff that I need to do anyways?

Might she see this as pressure? Before I moved back in not much cleaning was taking place. Now that I am back and cleaning myself she is not helping me but is cleaning "her stuff" bathroom, kitchen.

I really want to communicate with her but she goes back and forth, 2 days of no talking with me, to a Thank you for shoveling the driveway and small talk about the roads and weather. Then it is back to shutting the bedroom door when I walk past or I am in my bedroom.

I am having a hard time figuring out when to attempt to start a conversation with her or to just let her do all the initiating.

Any help would be appreciated.