FY, I agree w/AJ...your changes are very good once she's worked things out in head, heart and life. Continue as you have been. I've put in an order for more patience shovels and will send the largest and brightest one your way. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.