Paul, I think you're getting it, takes time.

About the neighbor, you're seem hurt but they really did nothing "to" you. They offered your W a place to stay, a neighborly gesture.

Your W is choosing her actions and she would most likely be on the same path with or without the neighbors.

You can also choose your path and how you view the neighbors actions.

It's good to recognize your anger but also dig deep to find where that anger is really coming from.

You may be surprised.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss