Just let me say, I haven't advised you not to confront but rather to be fully aware of what the consequences are. Be ready to be done.
After I read your post last night the question that came to my mind was: What do you mean by confront?
If by confront you mean revealing what you know and trying to work out the best possible ending to the marriage that's very different than confronting as a threat.
Commercials are manipulative and controlling. :)Just sayin'
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss