You are doing a fine job....The wife is nasty, but that is just part of the fun we call the MLC rollercoaster.....I don't suggest getting on as the tickets are free until the rides starts moving LOL.
Kate's advice is spot on....follow it...validate....and then move on with your day. She is the one who wants you to move out, not you. Hence if she wants the living conditions changed, she can change them and move out.
Glad you enjoyed lunch
A reality 2x4 here....The bathrooms trips are more than likely not to use the toilet (though it may happen LOL). When you noted the trips (which was bad, but we discussed that) she was in an environment where she had to hide and her bedroom was not available. She probably does it at home also, but she is more than likely using the bathroom as a hiding place to get away. Just like everything else you have noted....She is having affairs and the fantasy of those affairs is being disrupted by you. She couldn't holiday with them, wake up Christmas morning with them, etc......In their world that is depressing. The truth more than likely on the day you noted....she was going to text her OM about what a jerk you were being (not that you were, just you weren't acting according to her plans).
As for "what in the world are we doing"....You know what you are doing.
