I missed your Oct post - as I was reading it I can totally agree with you how I've learned so much about myself since the separation. My H and I are still separated and no one knows why he hasn't filed and have all the pictures with me on his fb even though he's in a relationship with his gf. When I first started DB-ing, I told myself I'd wait for him no matter how long and it's ok I don't get what I've always wanted - a family. But like you, I've learned so much about myself, what I want in life and what I need. The only difference is that I'm still not ready to file. You could say I'm still waiting for him to come to senses. But as time passes, I'm learning more and more about what I really want.
Last year around this time all I wanted was for him to come back. Now - even if he comes back I KNOW I'm not gonna just give in. I'll lay what I want and how I would like to spend the rest of my life.
I've always felt such a similarity with your posts and feelings toward wanting to have a family, JRG. I actually envy you that you reached to the point where you knew EXACTLY what you wanted and took action. I hope you will come back here and report when you find somebody you love and have a family you've always wanted.
To your happiness!
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
