You could start by mowing the lawn. That seemed to work before
OMG AJM, that was a good one. Thanks for the laugh.
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My W is not angry at me. Oh, it was all my fault at the beginning of the crises, but she moved past that quickly.
Now it's all regrets she has of her life. ("I've pissed away 30 years of my life, and now it's almost over")
I also believe some childhood stuff is driving her crises, and I wonder if she even realizes this.
There have been a few short and crazy outbursts of anger recently, but no blame on me in them. Mostly she seems happy, and we get along well. It does make me wonder about our chances of being intimate again.
Which is why I feel I'm overdue to start truth darting... I'm not content to live in a sexless M forever. (I almost wrote "loveless", but I do believe there is still some kind of love here)
Not sure the best way to approach this though... but I also feel there's not much I could say that would send her packing. It might scare her off for a bit though. IDK.
Originally Posted By: TVS
I think a good question is this...( sort of what you were referring to AJ in letting their anger burn out) What happens once they start to remember all the good things, and see that maybe they were wrong - AND - see what a mess they have created in the process? Talk about tough stuff...
Since my W hasn't had an A, hasn't spent loads of money, hasn't alienated the family, HAS stopped blaming me early on, etc. etc., there really hasn't been much of a mess created. This should make R easy, right?
It really makes me wonder how our story will end. Aren't you guys curious too?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
