Boo, after a nice reprieve, the drug wars are back on. I got an earful from S15's friend's mom who was sending her H through snow and ice to collect there son, who was with mine at at house my son had my permission to be at but her son is forbidden to be at and so he lied to them.
When they got him home they drug tested him and found him positive for pot. Not a big surprise.
I for one thing really hate getting these phone calls where the woman is screaming at me through the phone so I have to hold it away from my head. And if I don't summon the same level of outrage she wants to know why not. Maybe it's because she's bugging the cr*p out of me.
This last year before the kids can get jobs is very challenging. They need things to do, and they need supervision. I am, again, really bummed that I'm losing my nice flexible part time job, because I will be one of those moms who is just plain not home after school. Like this other kid's mom.
I'm so bummed that my son chooses friends that are into drinking and smoking weed, that he doesn't see what that's doing to his own prospects, that he doesn't think they're punks and losers. They're cool.
So his friend is apparently grounded till the end of high school and no phone and nobody better try to see him. She talks about shipping him out to Colorado. She screams in my ear.
I know she's in pain and upset and frustrated. I talked to S15 about how much I really dislike getting screamed at by his friend's mom, listening to the bad influence she thinks he is, watching him make decisions that hurt his future prospects and his relationships. I really dislike his friend's lying and sneaking, and thinking his parents are stupid enough to believe he was over at the grocery store for six hours after school.
Where's my happy place again?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
