my wife left, but still lives with me

[FloydMan]

Do not do what 'her' lawyer recommends. You can be certain you do not have all the facts. Do not abandon. My L and the 5 others I consulted with prior to choosing him were emphatic about that. This is the trap men get screwed in. Do not be manipulated I know it hurts. I know it is confusing. I messed up a lot of things like not detaching, but the only thing I did right was not leaving. Either the house gets sold or buy her out. That was my play and hers. We could not agree on buying each other out so we sold. Each bought smaller Townhomes in the same neighbourhood so kids were not uprooted. They are adjusting. They have expressed themselves in recent days this was the best of all the choices. Keep the schools and friends and athletics consistent.
Your W has no automatic right to be the one to stay in the house or have kids. Times have changed.
I wish I detached as per the advice. Might've had a better chance. All I know is the alternative did not work. A bigger mess was created.
Your W's lack of emotion is typical. She is focused and resigned with her intent. The coldness hurts like hell, but will hurt more if you push for emotion and don't get it.
Be well pal. You need to protect yourself. Mediation is best if you can, but don't get taken. She will be out for herself as odd as that is.
Praying for you brother.