Actually, I've accepted what I knew nearly 17 years ago: to stay married (without divorce) meant that the rest of our lives (hers or mine, whichever came to an end first) in this marriage would be sexless.
Forgive me if we're going over old ground here... But if you and your wife know this, why would she object to you having a little friend with benefits on the side as long as it didn't disrupt any other aspect of your marriage? If you go out somewhere for a few hours in a context where your wife can't see a reason for it, does she quiz you and insist on knowing what you did?
