And for the record, yard work does get us women hot. Don't even THINK about breaking out the weed wacker - lol!
I think perhaps we go through different rewriting at various times. I can see that with myself in retrospect. Right after bomb, it was rewriting with the rose colored glasses - things were so great, how can this be? Then as time went on, it was rewriting out of anger - what an a$$hole, he has treated me crappy for years!
I feel like I have finally come to a place where I can see the good and the bad in our M, and accept that we did the best we could at the time. My H's not a bad guy - not by a long shot - he is just a good person who has lost their way.
As for our MLCer, no doubt they rewrite out of anger. My H flat out told me he said things out of anger that he didn't mean. He was angry in general, and took it out on me.
I think a good question is this...( sort of what you were referring to AJ in letting their anger burn out) What happens once they start to remember all the good things, and see that maybe they were wrong - AND - see what a mess they have created in the process? Talk about tough stuff...
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
