Ellie, Just catching up and I appreciate your concern about my D. We are all learning here arent we. I am , as usual, very amazed at your ability to confront things headon and solution focused- yay! We learn for life on this board!!!! It sounds like she is really communicating with you and your R with her is really good. I have confidence in you all. One comment: can you let your H take on some of the burden? I think I sell my H short sometimes and dont allow him or trust him or appreciate what he can really do. I learned this throughout our M problems. I know you can appreciate what I am saying!! Anyway, trust in him without compromising your D's sitch IMHO. Happy V- day!! A little more snowboarding is in your future I hope!! Shay
