Moved Back from Overseas to Figure This Out...

[planet]

I wonder why it is termed as an illusion. WAW is in a relationship with OM. However crazy as it sounds the WAW is in love with this person. That feeling is as real as daylight. WAW is not in love with the LBH. That is real also.

Planet, are you speaking of WAW's in general, or his W?

WAWs in general. There's got to be 'in-love' feelings for the OM and 'out-of-love' feelings for LBH.

What it does is places the LBS in the wrong state of mind. It gives the LBH false sense of hope and it prolongs the 'acceptance' stage. LBH ultimately falls into his own trap.

Well, I wouldn't say it's a "false" sense of hope because there is valid reason for hope. Not all affair WAS's return, but enough do that there is a reason to hope.

I think LBH places too much importance on 'hope' and this just delays 'acceptance' and leads to prolonged hurt.
Does it even matter WAWs return or not. It is not an exciting prospect that they return still as their current selves.
I know this is a very cynical way to look at the situation in general but placing unnecessary thoughts and feelings for something that is not guaranteed is too much of a burden to carry at times. It is difficult to separate hope from expectations. We all know too well what expectations can lead to.