wife moved to.parents house last week scared

[paul19510]

so, I have a thing that's bugging me. my D13 has chosen to spend a majority of the overnights with W since separation. Since my W works a block from her school, she drives her down to the house in the AM and my D gets cleaned up and ready for school at home. then after school she gets off the bus here and returns to my In laws for the evenings with my W. My in laws live 20 miles from me.

Tonight we are having a storm (I live outside Philadelphia). So I texted the W the following after she picked up my D13: "Since the weather is bad and you have Lauren again tonight, please let me know where you are staying and that you are safe. Thanks" she replied, we are staying at(L's) Neighbor's for the night.

That is the horse farm across the street from me. We were friends. when things got rough, W went there and vented to the Mrs. I know I vented to the Mr. over the years and my wife vented to the Mrs. When weather is bad or they are out of town, my wife stays there. The neighbor's W emailed me to say she wasn't taking sides but, my W needed her help and was in pain and since they are BFF's with horses she may stay whenever she wants. any my daughter goes too.

I have a feeling of frustration and I just need to work thru it I guess. I feel like they are actively participating in the breakup of my family. over they years they have come to us with their issues too. But we never gave them a place to stay away from each other.

I don't feel that way about my in laws. So why that way about the neighbor? also I live in a state where kids can choose at this age which parent they'd like to stay with. its not mandated. I believe that my D feels the W needs her and she understands that I will just be there for her without condition. So, I guess I shouldn't feel sore about it...but just a "kneejerk reaction" sometimes I do. I don't express it to my D. its not her fault. But, I'm not happy with the W for doing it.

am I rambling? LOL