Thanks. The thing is though that I believe the new contact unearthed new problems that prove it's going to be a long road.
She basically explained that she loves me but can't have a relationship with me because I'm attached to kids, house, life she can no longer handle. This means I now have even less influence on the situation as before. She also told me she almost called me once to tell me to move on and forget her.
I'm completely powerless. I don't even have a thing she hated that I can say "look I don't do that anymore and I'm really sorry". She loves my GAL and building my life...it makes her happy and that's all I can do.
It also shows how vulnerable I am to losing her to another person. She needs a relationship with no attachments, booty calls, etc. I can only hope that the experience we had was positive enough she feels comfortable enough to come back to me instead of another for sex.
Wow! Do I ever have my work ahead of me. Thank goodness for DB/DR.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
