We talked about us some. She wants money. I told her I couldn't send any. She said she never wanted me to change. ?
She is seeing OM.
Let OM cover the financials!
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And said she is done, has moved on, sorry but that's the way it is. I said ok. I understand.
We call that "script" around here, because all of us have heard it. That is the way she feels RIGHT NOW. Have you read DR? Her feelings are changing constantly, you can't believe anything that comes out of her mouth for months.
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Told her to decide what she wants to do with the cats, her things will be in storage, I will file.
Slow your roll. First, you have NO IDEA if she's done or not, because she has NO IDEA (again, you cannot believe ANYTHING that comes out of her mouth for now). Second, your first post (which was barely 5 weeks ago) was loaded with things that YOU did wrong in the M:
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My wife and I have been having trouble for sometime. I haven't been living up to my duties as a husband. I haven't respected, acknowlwdged, complimented, given bad looks, upset when I feel she wasn't doing enough for the house, haven't satisfied emotion needs, listened, etc.
I have hurt her so much. These behaviors have occured before. We would talk, work it out, and I would return to old behaviors after some months. She feels lonely and extremely hurt. I allow myself to get to stressed out from work and other things. I've lost sight of what's important and took this out on her. Our communication had turned into me complaining constantly. Putting my stress and worry on her. Another problem.
What have YOU done about all those things? Because you need to fix YOU before you go rushing to file for D. You have to own your mistakes and do 180's on them. You have to give her time and space. At least 6 months, but really a year is more realistic. THEN if things don't work out perhaps you can consider D.
