my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

My wife just got back from the free consultation with the lawyer. He supposedly recommends that i move out of the house. However, anyone moving, we create a written 'contract' between the two of us with both signatures and a note saying 'we know this isn't a permanent custody document'.

I think our goal is mediation rather than lawyering up. Who has the money for that! Anyway, i am going to go to a lawyer just to make sure there isn't any 'missing' advice my wife 'forgot' to tell me about...........unfortunately the lawyer that people recommended me to is the same that she had a free consultation with!

This whole process still puts me in a fog, like it isn't real. I can't believe my wife's lack of emotion to whenever i express some. Trying not to, trying not to bring anything up. I do honestly still struggle with this detaching etc. It is something i have never done before. Part of me believes that by witholding serious R talks I am actually doing damage.

If what got me here, to this part in our marriage, was us both not talking about in depth feelings and happenings........now i should do more of that?

Went to a counselor today as well. Mostly background, obviously nothing seriously helpful/revealing on the 1st go around.