Thanks, BF. I too have sometimes wondered if W’s recent perception is accurate, that she never ever felt the hots for me. After all, she did have a lower sex drive than me. Then I remember many specific incidents... like the time she stripped and teased me through the back window of our house as I mowed the lawn. I almost ran the mower into the ditch trying to finish up!
Many months after BD I found a “game” W had made several years earlier that I had forgotten about. In this game each partner received points for doing chores, which they could then redeem for special “treats” in private! It was all listed out. I let it drop because keeping track of the points seemed like too much trouble.
Yes, she loved me, knew what I liked and tried her best. I plan to continue to do my best for her as long as I can.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
