It's Time to Sing a Brand New Song

[Mimi00]

He ended up calling again a few hours later. I was sleeping b/c I work nights...but I answered b/c I thought maybe it was an emergency since he doesnt call anymore...let alone twice in one day. He asked for our online password for the cell phone b/c he wants to remove his line from the plan. I told him i'd text it to him (bc I was annoyed I woke up for that...) he noticed I sounded like I was asleep so he asked me to call him back after I got up.

So I sent the password and just now he responded "thanks....I have another favor to ask when you get up"

Not sure what he wants from me.

I checked the joint accounts and he only has $98 left in the checking and only $800 left in the savings. So I am assuming he wants money.....yet again....because the next pay day isn't until January 10th.

He's spent over $6,000 from our savings since BD.

How is it he is makes double what I make...both of our rents are due on the 1st of the month....yet I dont need any help and ive been able to save a nice chunk of money since BD....and he hasn't been able to save a dime and has wiped out our joint savings?

This is why I want to be done with him. I have a personal savings that I started as a "nest egg" savings account for us 2 years ago because he wouldn't stop taking money from our joint savings. I have a decent amuntn saved in it and he told me the week of BD that since he didn't contribute to it, he doesnt want it and I can have it because I saved it with money from my own job. So he knows I have money saved up....b/c I am very serious about saving money and he knows I havent used it all up.

Im totally assuming this is what he wants, but if so this is my chance to finally stick up for my self.....and give him a big fat NO. Tell him to ask possible OW or her family since they are a so close.

I dont know if I will even call him back....but I will take sometime to think about the best way to say no, so I dont look like I am saying no becuase I am angry....because I am not, but he has to do this on his own now...he wanted to be alone...so figure it out.

I don't think anyone here should ever use that word ("defeat") because even if you decide you don't want to stand for your M anymore, you have been through so much growth by now that you have won regardless of whether your M continues or not. You've fought valiantly for your M and the fact that it didn't survive does not mean you lost, it means that your spouse lost. We make ourselves into the spouses only a fool would leave, and if they leave anyway well then they ARE fools.

Thanks AS.... I actually thought the same earlier when I was typing.
Its nice to think those things if only to make myself feel better