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[chasingpavements]

Hi Labug, to answer your question, my idea of working on the marriage is going to the MC to work on getting past resentments, working on forgiveness and working on communication (both of us). Also just working on breaking past destructive habits that we get into, such as blaming each other instead of showing empathy and not voicing our opinions.

So we had our first MC appt this week. It went pretty good. She is attachment based. I think she is a great fit for my H but im not sure yet if i like her as a good fit for me. I guess time will tell.

It came out in counseling that he is not ready to move back in yet. This is fine by me as i want it to mean something when he moves back in, that i could be fairly certain of things. It makes me wonder why he would say one thing to me and not mean what he said. He is so confusing at times. I am beginning to think i cant take what he says at face value.

Also, it came out in counseling that when he told me he wanted time alone in the house that he didnt mean it, he was just saying it as a counter to my saying i needed more alone time\space!! He apologized for this. It makes me angry. I was worrying and trying to accomodate him and he was just saying it to get back at me. I guess all i can do is be thoughtful and responsible in my own actions
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