2S2Q - Bring it on, 2014!!!

[paul19510]

sounds like you had a positive development in your own growth. My sitch is still very young. one month today. there is no OM in picture as of now, but she has her horses which is kind of the "affair" side of things. She just keep saying "need to find myself'. Seems just like your W in the sense that she can't seem to commit to the life we HAVE.
I do know that a old neighbor of mine from back home separated from his W for 6 years until their children grew out of the teen years and the next phase of their life came. they maintained their marriage at 'arms length" and then reunited when the kids were older.

He told my mom that he just couldn't handle that stage together with his W under the same roof. But he was able to re-engage in the marriage after that and they were fine. Each has passed away now. sometimes I wonder about that in my own life.

I wonder if I will ever have a chance to be with my W again and if I did would it ultimately hurt more than help. Its been a number a months (2 months before she left and now the months that she's been gone) now so I've detached from her physically. I feel it might actually hurt me if we were intimate, because I do love her and want to be together. My heart would hope again. not sure how you guys can handle that level of connection and then disconnect again. I'm not sure I could. to me its so much more than physical. it really meant a lot to me emotionally in our life together. I don't think my W feels the same.