Yep. It was the same bundle of info I had already snooped. It just came to me in a Columbo like moment. And W and I have been discussing it. I basically fessed up to snooping and she knows we both do it, so that tempers her judgement. But, I'm not looking for more info. I had that strange magical feeling of clarity and calmness come over me. It dawned on me that it's not me. I'm not a failure and there's hope for me no matter what. I don't deserve to be treated like trash (and neither does the OM's SO!). I worry about W - she's on the edge of a breakdown. I know I can't save her - that's up to her.
