Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[paul19510]

I think it's great that you changed things up around the house. I too do a lot of the stuff here while my W tends to her horses. horses first family last. I don't think that's the right order, but she does. that was a real deal breaker for me.

My DB coach reminded me, that my W is stepping back and not acting as a W right now. So, its OK to step back and NOT BE LIKE a HUSBAND right now.

My W actually left some dirty laundry behind when she changed here after work to do her barn chores a few days after we separated (I'm sure it was just habits). I put the clothes in a bag and brought them out to her vehicle the next morning with some mail she had. she looked stunned. If I am a H then I'd do the laundry and she'd help. but she moved to her parents and we only talk about essential topics right now. So, I'm not really a H at the moment am I?

Again I'm not an expert, but she can't expect much more from you at the moment than what a conscientious room mate might do. Don't be a slob, don't be a jerk....but, YOU are not really her H at the moment. So take care of you and the kids and be respectful, but that's all Make sense?