LOL! At least he was upbeat today. Maybe he's getting a reprieve from the depression.
Well I went to my mothers for supper and cards. Getting D a bath and hair washing for our outing tomorrow. Going to the movies and then to eat, troll the mall a bit, spend some time with family.
10 more post and I can close this thread down! Maybe come up with a snappy title. LOL
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
have a fun day today with your D. hope there is some sunshine! I too feel better with some sun and where I live the tempts are relatively mild. my h usually texts d every day/night unless he is feeling guilty because of his other choice....
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Not much sun today but it was a good day anyway. Went and got a tooth fixed, watched a movie with D and my mother, ate lunch with my family, and got sticker shock looking for boots. LOL Nothing from H but oh well, his loss. We had a good day.
He has D this weekend so I'm rearranging the living room. Super cold temps so I'll probably stay home and get ready for heading back to school next week.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
Sun today! Cold, cold, cold but sunny. Schools delayed 3 days next week. Finally got a new box for the tree so it's down and ready to put in the attic. Ready to rearrange the living room when D heads out tonight.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
H came to get D and was in a good mood. I'm sure he was on an OW high but I hope he was happy to see D and not the other. I was upbeat and happy. Made a joke and he laughed.
Now I'm hanging out trying to sort my eBay stuff that my brother gifted me with. Items that should fetch 5-10 per item and there are about 75! And about 5-10 that seem to be around 35! Got to get them listed and make some money to have in reserve to get some clothes and shoes for me. My tight jeans are hanging so I need some for work. Get my hair done and maybe a few highlights.
Talking to my mother today and she told me to go on with my life and not wait on something that might not ever happen. Has my mother been DB'ing? LOL
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
And why do they hang around? He could have come in and got D and left but he hung around talking a bit, more than usual. My mother thinks he's trying to make sure I'm not moving on and I'm here in case things don't work out in the real world. IDK
Reading the links Cadet gave me again. Things make more sense once you get further away from the BD and you start to detach.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
And is there any reason to do a timeline of when things started? I was uploading pictures and saw a Christmas picture from 2 years ago and remembered H having an outburst at his mother's house about how horrible a time he was having playing a game with us. Then other things started jumping out at me as not his normal behavior. Tanning, starting to worry about his health, not getting a promotions, etc.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
Found this while surfing looking about MLC and OW.
It was about Affair Down during MLC: There is nothing special about her other than that she gives him her attention and admiration--those are not to be underestimated. She fulfills his need for validation. An OW must be willing to date a married man. She may not seem willing in that she pressures him to leave and divorce you, but she was willing to start a relationship before he fulfilled that requirement.
Strong people who value themselves do not allow themselves to become involved with people who are married. MLCer OWs are desperate woman seeking a rescuer to save them from their sorry lives. They will thus do whatever it takes to get this man who has shown a history of commitment through his marriage--thus he is a better catch than a man who is available. She auditions for the role of perfect fantasy wife by listening to his problems and soothing his wounded ego. She is attentive not only sexually but also and more importantly, emotionally.
OWs allow their desperation to cloud their judgment. She is so desperate that she justifies his mistreatment of you and believes he will never mistreat her also. He did not choose the OW because she is better than you or because you failed. He chose her because she was willing.
I know I've read the above several times on this board but I needed to see it elsewhere. I know H's OW is out of work and has medical issues. (would like to marry and be on his insurance?) She spends all day texting him and giving him the validation that he wants that I'm horrible and he's right in what he's doing. I can't do that since I work and take care of house and home. I guess at some point I'll have to become OW ;)if the opportunity ever presents itself.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
Wow I don't need to post when I've had too much wine. LOL
Cold but sunny today, so I'm opening up the curtains and getting this dark house brightened up! Going to get this tree and odds and ends upstairs, finish listing on Ebay and hopefully figure out how to move this room around. The big thing is the tv and all the cables but I can do it.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
