Need help detaching

[2chiquitos]

I get it. He was being a jerk with the baby and with you. All I can do is give you suggestions on what you can do. Next time, wait before you tell him how to father his child. You're not talking to a child (although it might seem like it ;-) Wait because you need to reflect on how to approach such a delicate topic. Pray to your Higher Power to help you express yourself as best you can. Find the right time of the day to talk to him about it.

Remember you're talking to an adult and he WANTS to be an awesome father but he doesn't always need you to tell him how that should look.

I totally agree with you. I can't stand it when H talks to S5 in this tone when it can be approached in a much better way. Truth is, I'm an observer and so of course I can see his errors. But I should also give him more praise than criticism if I plan to give him my advice on how to parent our child.

So, no, don't run to the courthouse and get a divorce because you had an emotional argument. Go back and have this conversation again but before you do WAIT, REFLECT, PRAY, FIND the right time to approach it.

I've learned that we can have an ugly fight but now I work on revisiting the issue where we can talk like adults about it. This new approach has more to do with my 180 and he feels more validated and respected as a partner in our child's parenting.

Good luck ;-)