Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[S4tk]

No More Mister Nice Guy or N.U.T.s. They are similar to one another. Read one of them soon.

Here is the reason. You are trying to stuff everything in. And then you get resentful. Your W picks up on it.

The N.U.T.s book is about determining your non-negotiables. After you do that, you are freed up a bit from resentment. Why? By knowing your non-negotiables as a man, you can decide whether something has been compromised.

So wife went out and slept at girlfriend's house. [At least that is the story - so we will trust it.] If it goes against a non-negotiable in your life, then you calmly lay the boundary down and let her know about it. But, if it doesn't go against one of your non-negotiables (which I imagine is more likely the case) then you are freed up to simply accept it, or ask her how her night was, or let it go, detach, etc.

Why did her action cause such emotion from you? I would probably be tempted to respond in a similar passive-aggressive way but this is your situation, not mine.