Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[paul19510]

Try to remember that this is a person you married and have 2 kids with. not the loch ness monster LOL. be in control of YOU. If you do that and take care of YOUR needs and act with integrity, you have a better chance that things in any given exchange will be better. Its OK to take a breather and say, I'm not sure how I feel about that. Or I feel mad or anxious or sad and I don't understand it. Can you give me a few minutes and I'll be right back? (this btw is approaching true sharing and intimacy) Then show up when you said you would as an act of good faith. BTW don't overuse the idea. Like if you W says do you want Italian or Chinese for dinner...? Don't get all thoughtful about it.

Be Courteous, consistent and confident. You're letting her ideas or your perception of them rule your thoughts. What if she were gone (magically...not anything bad) tomorrow. Who would you be? what would you do???