Look what the cat dragged in! (TL) - Act 3

[CallaghanClown]

My problem is, H is so far away and I can't ask about OW, so I have no idea if she is in the picture or not. If she isn't and I cut out ML, I hurt my sitch. If she is still around, and I don't stop the intimacy, I am letting him cake eat. I feel the same as you - he can't have us both, but how do I know?

What do you mean by this?

If your H isn't showing you that he is committed to your M then cut intimacy. I know that's hard.....I'd give anything for intimacy right now. But if there is no commitment then there should be no intimacy, unless that's not one of your boundaries?

If it isn't then what difference does an OW make? OW is just a symptom of the MLC, as much as withdrawal/spewing/spending, would you stop intimacy for them?