Here's to a better 2014...

[FloydMan]

Hey RLA,
Sorry you are hitting a rut, but that is to be expected from time to time in piecing from what I understand. We were warned about hat fairly by our two different therapists but in the end she could not handle it. If you're committed to it then the ups and downs need to be committed to as well.
He was screaming and 'crying'...this man is hurting. There is a saying, "pay no attention to the angry words your partner says, but rather the hurt behind them".
The blame thing was a problem in your sitch previously...it must stop, no matter what. No matter who is wrong. This was the cancer when we tried to piece and was the death knell in our marriage and is now the big issue through this nasty, costly and never ending litigation. Even at court 2 weeks ago blaming barbs were thrown back and forth and made it worse and no settlement done. I blame my exW and she blames me. The bitterness and resentment still very fresh a year and a half later. The difference is, I accepted my short comings and contributions and my exW would not, does not, nor will ever accept her contribution. That was the death knell. She was warned by professionals time and time again it was 50/50 but could not get past that. Me too.
Unless you are genuinely in fear, or threatened do not call the police or threaten. This does more harm than good and builds more issues. My exW called the police 2 weeks before moving out and I was in another room wondering why she was packing things that weren't hers. She looked bad. The police were very nice to me and told me to stay home until moving out if I wanted. They actually told her she was wrong, which made her more angry. It made her look bad a court a couple weeks later, the custody did not go her way and my resentment grew. Worse than all that the kids were very angry at her for doing that and still hold some resentment about it. The police will lose patience quickly with you if there are false calls. they have enough stress and real threats to deal with....they see the ugliest of stuff and are there to protect. Don't compromise their protection. They are not there for a disagreement between adults. Now, and very importantly if you are really frightened and there are threats, or signs of violence call the police or get the heck outta there.