wife moved to.parents house last week scared

[paul19510]

I saw my W today. She dropped our D 13 off at the house and then continued to our barn for morning chores. We've been essential contact only for a few weeks now. I decided to try something and take a leap of faith. I went to Dunkin Doughnuts and bought us two coffees and quietly met her at the barn. I picked up a pitchfork and started working on Stalls with her after asking if she minded a hand with chores. She appreciated the coffee and the help.

It was somewhat quiet and we just did chores and listened to the radio. We also talked and laughed a little. I stayed upbeat and didn't discuss sitch.

Sad to see she seems lost, but I can't fix that. I just decided I'd like to visit with her and be upbeat. I don't consider this a backslide (maybe others do). I did give her a hug and wished her a happy new year. she held on tight. Somehow that helped me also see that its not all about me and its not all about some OM. she's just depressed and jacked up and she needs time to figure that out.

She said she really need to "find herself'. More WAS scripting. I told her it I felt it took courage to change her life around like this and move away from home and that I could see she was in pain and that this was important to her.

I told her I enjoyed the visit. Said I believed in her and excused myself for the day.

well see how it goes....