I'm moving on to this one partly because the old one's getting long, mostly because the title dated.
I suppose it's appropriate to start this with a "resolution" feel to it so here goes..
2014 will be better because: 1 - I'm healing. The pain is gone and now the stress & obsession is going to hit the curb as well. 2 - I now have the beginnings of a social life. Friends at work to hang out with on lunch breaks and coffee outings…Dance friends to go clubbing with and they're very interested in my happiness...As far as they're concerned, I should move on and get some FWB but they respect my choice. Gym friends to hang out with, spar and go get beers to watch UFC fights with…and it's only beginning. 3 - Finances *will* be resolved by mid year. I'm either getting the raise I need in March or I'm selling the house to pay off debts that are tying me down. If that needs to happen, I will not tell her it's all her fault even though it kind of is 4 - My fitness lifestyle is accelerating and I'm going to be ripped this summer. 5 - Detaching is the name of the game. I must focus on making my happiness independent of her actions…she had a huge social network, parties like it's 1999, may or may not be seeing someone but that's not my concern. I will become my own person, she'll either want to be a part of my life or she won't…decision is hers.
Thanks for the generous "ears" in 2013 and tolerating my mood swing rants, this is actually the only place I get to sound off…I know a few recent separated/divorced people, none of them want to repair their relationship. They're all moving on so when I say "I'd like to reconcile, maybe take couples counselling" they look at me like I have 2 heads.
Last edited by Cadet; 06/20/1511:06 AM. Reason: Links
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
