What you're both going through is so difficult and you want to fix it... but you can't.
I hope you find the power to continue working on you and that starts with letting go of outcomes. Whatever that picture is that you carry in your mind of how you would like things to be, let it go. We hold on to that illusion so tightly and it keeps us stuck living in someone else's drama.
That's the scary part, once you're past that and you know that no matter what the outcome is you'll be OK, everything gets a lot easier.
Learning what your boundaries are and not allowing others to steal chunks of you is a start.
We do have to let go of the old life so a new life can begin. May you become comfortable with peace and serenity in the New Year.
“Fear is at the core of codependency. It can motivate us to control situations or neglect ourselves.
Many of us have been afraid for so long that we don’t label our feelings fear. We’re used to feeling upset and anxious. It feels normal. Peace and serenity may be uncomfortable.” Melody Beattie
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
