I know it has been a long time, but I have not forgotten where this board got me..
Most of you are newcomers here..there are still a few of us "older"ones.
Happy New Year to all.....it has been a year of many emotions for me..starting out wondering how I was going to move on with my life..alone..then on Feb 2..boom he comes over to "talk"..I just knew what was to come.>WRONG...he wanted to come back...I won't go into details...find my posts and read if you really want to..it might give hope to others.
Well, in May we renewed our vows and today are very happy..again. It took time, PATIENCE, CHANGES on my part, but know that it can happen.Society doesn't think that sepearted couples can get back together, but I know they can.
Take care of yourselfs...this board was a lifesaver for me..it helped me change me..it supported me when there was no one else to turn to, I found some pretty neat friends too...most of all everyone here helped me belive in myself and my values...I knew a year ago that I could make it on my own..I didn not want ot, but I wanted my h to be happy, and I prayed that God would help him find that happiness..look what I got. I had told that to our pastor a while before that, and she said "God answers our prayers in His time,but we might now always like the answers" I did turn to prayer and belief that God does take care of us, when we ask. I also learned a very valuble lesson on forgiveness..my h had a short pa...I susspected it for along time..he denied..all the stuff you have heard..but I loved him despite that, and I forgave him long before he asked to come back. Does it hurt..sure.he betrayed our vows, but he also asked for forgiveness. You can say you forgive..words are easy to say...you really have to open your heart and mind to make it successful.
Enough going on.......I hope everyone that reads this will keep a glimour of hope alive. If your was needs space........give it to them.....seperating was hard..but it is what he asked for, and I gave it.
Best of luck to all.....I will say a prayer for all on this wonderful board, that you too, may finf the happiness and peace that you are seeking.
It's so nice to see you post and update! And equally nice to see that you two are still doing well!
I've started thinking about truly moving on. H is still on the fence after 2 years. He connects at times, then backs away, almost like he's scared himself. Who knows what he's thinking, he certainly doesn't tell me. And I get tired of hearing the same things all the time. "We'll sit and talk about this on this day" or "We need to figure out us".
He's been saying these things for about a year and a half. But no action. It's almost laughable. There have been times I have actually laughed out loud. Couldn't help it, it just slipped.
Anyway, it is great to know that there is hope and I am still standing for this M, many days not sure why, but still standing. Although I'm not really sure how much longer I can wait.
Take care of yourself,
JL
Life is not measured in the breaths we take, but in the moments that take our breath away...
This sure is inspiring for those of us still piecing together our M's. Sue, could you tell us how you dealt with trusting again.
I can sure identify with praying for one's WAS, and for ourselves to get through this awful time.
Thanks for giving us newbies some hope.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hello to all.. it had been along time since I was here, and I feel bad because this is truly the place that saved me through all the crap I faced.
Being Me..I hope that you are taking care of yourself...number one, cause if you don't get yourself straightened out and make teh neccesary changes, then it might be hard to work on the m. How do you learn to trust..well..my h has always been the kindest, most trusting person you could know..that's why it was hard for me to believe that he would have an a...but as he told me he did something "stupid"..the ow was a *itch..a woman who could wiggle her way into any man that was, I guess maybe looking for assurance, and maybe that was what my h needed..and she had ways of controling..and when you go so far, it can be hard to get out...she is the one who broke it off when she found another man that paid more attention to her..and he wasn't married. So I don't know if that tells you anything..I do not sit and wonder where he is,and don't really even question his trust..I believe that God has played a hugh part in our lives, and that we both made changes to better our m. Do i get a little scared? Sure,I sometimes think if he did it once, maybe again..he works at our church, and the secretary is going through a d, and she seems to wear some pretty low cut outfits, I try to talk to him when I feel insecure..he always says I have nothing to worry about, and this gal is not like the other one, but she is thinner than I am, and wears these clothes. I have to pray that the devil will not win and be the best wife that I can be.
Hope that it has helped...give them space..patience..forgiveness.. I will try to become more regular.
