It's Time to Sing a Brand New Song

[Mimi00]

I've taken a break from my own thread for a while, I believe this will be my final thread. I made the decision to drop the rope on new years if there were no changes, and I took the first steps to do so tonight because nothing has changed in the slightest from doing LRT.

So I've just blocked my H on all social media, deleted his number from my phone. We haven't had any communication this month other than him sending me a text on Christmas that said:

"Merry Christmas 'Mimi'!"
and I replied "Same to you, 'Alien H'"

I think that was the first time I've not responded "happily" to him, I didn't really care to say it back in response...

This month he's posted things online such as "I don't regret this life I have chosen" and he's openly posting pics of him and his coworker (possible OW, not sure, she did recently dump her boyfriend as well) when they go snowboarding together almost every weekend, on his social media.

His cousin commented on one of his photos "I see you've got a snowbunny now as well" and H just laughed in response. It's slightly embarrassing because none of my family knows about H leaving (except my parents and sibling) and they are all friends with H.... so while his face book still says "Married" he's posting pics with this lady.

And her family is posting pictures of H; bought him Christmas gifts and included him in their holiday photos. (clearly I snooped a few times this month) so blocking him is a good thing. I will no longer be happily scrolling down my new feeds/timelines and then have a pic or status H posted show on there and ruin my mood/cause my heart to sink into my stomach. I blocked his sister too, then I felt bad and unblocked her.... then i saw that "blocking" automatically "un-friends" the person. Oops. O well....so then I re-blocked her lol

The last thing I have to do in order to be fully seperated from my H, is remove my name from our joint accounts. I will wait until the next time I get paid, to make sure my Direct deposit was changed properly.

My H still has not filed for dissolution, to my knowledge, as he still has not sent me the petition paper work to sign. Maybe he's waiting until the holidays are over?

Regardless... I've printed out the steps for dissolution from his state on how to file and what will be needed from me. So I can have everything on my end filled out and notarized so when he does finally send the petition for me to sign, I will have everything else ready to go....hopefully I won't have to drag this process too far into 2014.

I hope everyone had a great holiday (as best one could) and I hope every one steps in to the new year with a bit more confidence; knowing you are loved, special and of great worth.