Sue, It's good to see that things are going well for you. I have also been here a long time--7/2002. My H left right before our 20th wedding anniversary on the last day of May, 2002. He lived with OW for almost 2 years, and told me the day before our courtdate, June 2004, that he didn't think he wanted a D. H is not home and we are taking things slowly.
We have been doing 'family' outings, and last night had our first actual date without kids.
My H has not ever said that he did anything wrong and has not said that he loved me---just that he missed me.
Anyway, I thought that I would ask someone that has been there---I have many questions about his A, but haven't asked for fear that it would run him off. There are things that I just need to know--I can't act like nothing ever happened, like he seems to be able to do. When did you feel comfortable enough to ask the questions that you had? Did you let your H bring up the R talks first, or did you?
Any advice you could give would be greatly appreciated.
Congrats again--and I hope that your H finds a job that he will enjoy soon.
