MJ..my husband led this secret life for over two years but I found the one gf by mistake. I spoke with her and they were dating for over a year. Long story short she was such trash and had a police record for stealing. Kids with all diff dads and lived in a less than stellar neighborhood in the city. Not sure what drew him to her since I am exactly the opposite and we live in a big house in a nice neighborhood, etc. Their pics were all over fb. It was very disheartening. The following year was just a year of never being home and running around and he was not with her so I don't have a clue who he was with. But, at one time I got a phone call at work from a woman telling me she was running a "Refernce Check" on my H and the only questions she asked was are you married still and did you guys ever divorce? Then a woman showed up at my front door and my kids were home alone and answered and a strange woman was looking for my H because she said they were voting together. Only it was not a voting day and they said should we get our mom and she said no that isn't necessary and took off in her car. Nice, huh? These men don't get how the secrets cause so much hurt and pain. That is why my boys have a clue that he has another family. They are pretty on top of the fact my H was running around cheating for a long time.
I hope the OW isn't someone you know. That would just make things all the worse!!
Have a happy New Year. Maybe this will be the year we can move on and start anew!
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
