Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

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SC,

I haven't posted to you, but I did catch up on your sitch in the last couple of days.

I think it is great that you quit drinking. Hopefully you are committed to making that a life change, not just a temporary change to get your W to come back. Ultimately, all the changes you are making should be for you and your children and as an extension, any future relationship(s). When changes are genuine, they do not go unnoticed. Your W is watching from a distance.

It took your W many years to get to the point of wanting to end your M/R. Not an easy choice. It will take some time for her to reverse that choice. That is where your changes come into play. What would make her believe that a new M/R would be different? What would make her think it would be better? Be the person you would want to spend the rest of your life with.

On the GAL, it is great that you are going to spend the weekend with a friend doing something new. That is always cool. I'd also suggest GAL with your children. My children happen to be the same age. There are tons of things you can do with them. They need you now more than ever.

Another GAL suggestion, would be to volunteer to help the less fortunate. One quote that stuck in my head is, "When you are busy helping others, you forget about your own problems." You might not completely forget about them, but it will help you heal doing something positive.

Hope this helps.

Peace