I don't tend to be an emotional person. My family just isn't like that. Which probably explains why when someone hits my last nerve, I fly off the handle. Not good either.
Don't stifle your emotions. That is so very unhealthy. Just try to channel them in another direction. R talks are not working. You know this because you have had many. So maybe when you want to be heard (even if by him), come and post here and pound on those computer keys. It isn't the same, I know. But, it might help to break your pattern and still serve your purpose - to be heard.
Bright and I are in much the same situation. Skippy is in the middle of these touch and goes and it is frustrating and annoying. Her H is doing the same. But neither of us has had the opportunity to have a R talk. Maybe because our partners are not around all the time.
Pud, saving your marriage is a worthy goal, but not at all costs. Find your balance. Let him swing in the wind for a bit and focus on you. Not just on changes you think you should be making to save your marriage, but dare to make future plans that do not include your H. One step at a time, dear Pud.
