I am really sorry that things fell kinda flat with your H. When I spoke to Skippy for the first time in eight months, that conversation seemed bizarre to me, too. Because you both are well aware of what is happening, of what has happened but neither of you want to talk about it.
This is becoming very real for both of you. And I think you did well under the circumstances. It's hard when we have so little contact with them and then they show up.
But I am going to give you a 2x4 first for this:
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I’m dying to find out if he brought somebody with him. I almost asked him, and then I thought to e-mails my friends at the vacation home with this question.
You have to STOP spying on him through your friends. Aren't you the one who just realized that they have been reporting to him? Does it matter to you if he brought someone or is it curiosity? If the information matters (i.e. is a dealbreaker), then you might want to make discrete inquiries. But Bright, asking for information for gossips sake is hurting you. It is keeping you focussed on him and not on YOU.
You don't know that his love is gone for you. No doubt this meeting was as awkward for him as it was for you. More so, since your mutual friends have been reporting to him. The trouble is you don't know what or how they have described you to him.
I have bugged you about this pattern before, so I won't again. Ultimately, those decisions are up to you. Take what works for you and leave the rest.
