Stay off the see saw, you don't have to become a part of his drama. You're dealing with a substance, not a fully functioning adult.

Whatever your H is self-medicating for, it probably has nothing to do with you.

You can be compassionate and empathetic with your H but you first have to be those things with yourself.

I had to laugh when I read your description of me cause it is so far from where I was 3-4 years ago-then it was more like Woman With Hair on Fire. I was firmly caught up in being a victim.

Thanks for seeing the change. wink

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss