Both embarrassed, both felt insecure and both didn't talk about it. Seriously nobody is given a 101 on intimacy talk because we are all shades of grey (no pun intended with book lol) We are all brought up that it's one style w one partner and it just doesn't fit everyone.
Update is that we have been getting along REALLY well. We had a last minute trip we decided to take as a family but plans fell through but instead we still did a family day trip. H seems to be very happy but I can tell he still has anger as he gets a little self centred and arrogant, but to be honest not sure if that side ever changes, it seems to have always been there in a sense. But real effort has been put into addressing the anger that is built up behind it. Can't be unhappy with the progress.
He is confused just straight up but instead of asking him the questions I've just been ensuring I show the absolute fun side of me, joking with everything, laughing, dancing silly and giggling with kids. I think the talking thing again is to soon as I believe he is still mourning the OW end. Need to let that happen first. Its kind of great to feel I have time though.
So my goal is a little bit of R talk then double the amount of fun.
_____________________________________________________ Me 32 H 32 D 6 S 4 S 11mth
Never allow kindness be misinterpreted for weakness. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
