Job, we had a very nice Christmas. I hope you did as well. We were much more focused on the advent season then in years past and truly enjoyed the celebration.
I don't understand the need for blame, revenge and destruction by those that leave. I get their need for justification, but how do they really feel they benefit?
Xh sent a rambling email to my attorney stating how much I have hurt him financially, ruined his relationship with the boys, refused to sign all of his fair settlement offers and on and on. It was such a narcissistic point of view and incredibly skewed. Of course, there was no acknowledgement of his affair, financial destruction caused by his gambling or any other behavior that created the crisis we are in. It's still all my fault - his unhappiness during our marriage and all that has happened the last two years. Apparently he has forgotten that he also emailed that I'm a wonderful person and a great Mom. How does he rectify all of this in his brain? He is a victim of the life he created and he won't get relief until he chooses a different course.
