Quote: Keep faith and hope in your hearts..and most of all,(imho)..forgiveness...something you have to give yourself first, and then your spouse..true forgiveness, or you might not be able to move on..with or without them.
What wise words, Sue! Good to hear that things are going well with you and H.
How are you doing? Thinking of you. This piecing stuff can be hard work, especially not slipping back into old patterns, but building a better m! Glad you are having the successes you deserve.
I just wanted to post and say I hope things are still going well between you and your H. My sitch is starting to go in a good direction, H is communicating much more with me, we are doing things together, and we are getting ready to go on vacation together with the boys!
Hope all is well with you. I think of you often and pray that your M continues to grow and flourish!
Take care JL
Life is not measured in the breaths we take, but in the moments that take our breath away...
I have not been around for a long time...so many things have ahppened!!
First..thank you Jl for coming by..I am happy that things are moving in a positive directions..patience..a word I have heard for several years...pays off.
I know that most of you newcomers have no idea who I am, and if you care to read my past threads, you will knwo that i came here 2 years ago..lost, scared..then all these friends helped me feel better about ME..i read Michelles books..I tried to keep my h home..well he moved out Nov.02..he was on a journey of finding himself and other stuff..scared the he** out of me..25 years of m is a long time..how would I make it...well with the sep came a time for both of us to find ourselves..and to become more involved in our church......we remained friends..talked..did some family things together..but last Oct., h came to tell me he renewed his lease, and that maybe I should think about doing something"legal"...I was devastated..but I knew I could not hold onto him..I prayed for God to help him find his happiness..well on super bowl SUnday he came by..wanted to talk//of course I knew what it was..WRONG...he asked for forgiveness..wanted to come back to the m...
to make a longer story short..May 14, (26 years to the date of asking me to m him the first time) he came by my work with my diamond reset in another setting..and asked me to renew our vows, as he had our pastor waiting at the church..
We then went on a short trip to Nashville..
All I want to say is thanks to all who helped me on this long..painful, but rewarding journey..and to ALL the new people here..don't give up hope and faith if restoring your marriage is what you really want...it does involve making changes that you might not think are fair,patience while they take their journey, but most of all..I believe that true forgiveness from the heart will play the largest part in restoring not only the m, but your true self.
RIght b4 your h came home you shared a lot of your anxiety about whether it would last and whther or not you could "give up" certain freedoms. COuld you describe how this is going for you? Is your husband helping more around the house?
Quote: to make a longer story short..May 14, (26 years to the date of asking me to m him the first time) he came by my work with my diamond reset in another setting..and asked me to renew our vows, as he had our pastor waiting at the church..
We then went on a short trip to Nashville..
I'm jealous!! my h thought I was being dramatic when I suggested a renewal of vows. You lucky lady you...you deserve it!!! so happy for you and your h!!
I'm jealous!! my h thought I was being dramatic when I suggested a renewal of vows. You lucky lady you...you deserve it!!! so happy for you and your h!!