Good day Sue, I miss those "talks" too. . but so glad to hear you're spending your time more enjoying life and being with your H rather than being here on the BB!
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Well, I'm not gonna hijack your thread, but I'm having trouble keeping my balance lately and just not sure which way I need to lean to regain it. After this past weekend, I was considering starting up a new thread again, but ... ?
Quote: Would I be too bold to give you my e-mail so we could chat more?
Sue, I would like that. With my new job assignments, I just don't have much time recently to keep up with the BB anymore ... here's my work address you use to foward yours ... ken.walton@engelhard.com
LL said well about how much to share with H or work out on your own. I have always considered this forum invaluable to share my thoughts, more so than the counseling I have had, but I also never really had the option of being able to share any of the emotional fallout with CAW. I still owe my deepest gratitude to the "old" gang that helped me out so ... JJ, Andy, Tbone, Zebra, Matilda, Jethro, LostLove and you too, Sue as well as the others. Just remember tho, if you get frustrated, don't take it out on H, but instead come here and vent.
Thanks, friends, for stopping by...things are good..we are going slow..sometimes I think too slow..but we need to have alone time..together time..and all the in between. Patience definitly still plays a big part..and keeping quiet when saying something would do no good..I can see it would be very easy to fall back to old habits..and that is a struglle..kinda like gaining weight..it is a life time thing.
I hope that everyone here keeps the faith that all things are happening for a reason, and out of it you will become stronger for it.
Sue, Same old thing; this journey is a slow one! I'm glad you are having a chance to work things aout with your H. You have brought some of us much hope!
Wow..page 7...I used to bump up when i fell to page 3!!
Been kinda busy..with h and m, and with work and church.
Have a throat virus that the antibiotics just aren't killing off..but otherwise life is grand...h and I continue to spend more time together...I spend a few nights a week at his apt..he does not stay here, as I have only a full bed, and he's 6'2 and can't get comfie..so we are looking at a new queen for here... I need to have him here more..when I am at his apt..it's like visiting someone..it's fun..to have him home is scary to me..so many unhappy memories that occured here..so little by little.
I did tell him the other day how lucky i am..he said no, that he was the lucky one..he has never been one to freely say things like that....so people do and can change..if they really want to.
Quote: I did tell him the other day how lucky i am..he said no, that he was the lucky one..he has never been one to freely say things like that....so people do and can change..if they really want to.
Awww. This is so sweet.
You're so inspiring, Sue. And I love that you went bowling. Clearly you are the strong, take the high road woman here. And your H loves you for it.
Hi..I know most of you don't even know me..long history here..I feel bad that I don't get here often...
H is going to be moving back in the next month or so..things continue to go well..yet I have many mixed feelings..oh not aboout us and our m, I know in my heart, mind and soul that we are meant to be..I would not have been hanging on so long, if I did not believe that, it's just that I get a scared feeling that it won't last, or old ways will come back..or we will get tired, bored with each other. Minor things like, I have been used to sleeping alone..I come and go as I want..eat when I want..are these petty things to think about?? I know the answers..i don't to be whacked..I know the imporant things in life..
H does not have a job yet either, so I get frsutrated that he jsut sits around and watches tv..hope when he comes home, he will help a little more..but how do I say these things without judging or nagging?
So much work still to do, but I will say to anyone who read this and is in the beginning stages..do not give up hope..hang in there for the ride..but take care of you all the way.....I was finally at a place of such peace and comfort, that I was going to give h a d, if that is what he really wanted....and then I believe that our faith and belief in God, along with prayers turned his heart back to us..so hang in there
I am so where you are at right now. It's been three months since my H moved back, today is the one year anniversary of the bomb and I have no idea what I'm doing anymore.
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The good thing is no matter what is happening I still have this peace and comfort place inside of me. It's where I go when I'm struggling, when I think H is pulling away, when I think H isn't staying, when I know H is still in contact with OW and on and on.
Hi...just lurking around..nothing new..things continue to go good...h has not moved back, but we continue to spend more time together. It does not all end here..and the fairy tale begins..it takes work each day..to keep those new changes..to keep quiet when need be..to speak up, but in a different way when need be.
Keep faith and hope in your hearts..and most of all,(imho)..forgiveness...something you have to give yourself first, and then your spouse..true forgiveness, or you might not be able to move on..with or without them.
. but so glad to hear you're spending your time more enjoying life and being with your H rather than being here on the BB! 
