I think that it is great that she is making moves back towards you in one capacity or another. It is, without a doubt, representative of opportunity for change in your situation.
One thing, though, makes me kind of uneasy in your situation. Maybe I am behind on everything that has been going on, but it seems a lot like your wife is terrified of being alone. What I DON'T want to see happen to you, SM, is you get woven back in with your wife and in the span of a few months she checks out again.
When I was reconciling with my wife this past spring my psych gave me good advice that I did not take. In a nutshell - if you try to patch things back up without professional help you are almost 100% certain to fail. That ended up being true in my case.
So whereas I see your excitiment (hell, I would be giddy as hell in your shoes) make sure you take the cautious, pragmatic approach. Don't let the urge to make everything "right" again as quickly as possible trump the need to take things slowly and FIRST lay a solid foundation when the time is right -- then build upon it. I did not do that, and I regret it.
