OMs, cycling, cakes and confusion Oh my Lord ;)

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Yes accuray you are right. She needs to pursue and it shouldnt and can't just be slipping back in like nothing happened...

What i meant by the hourly thing was that I wasn't prepared for her A to end so abruptly so I really had no idea how to move. I thought it would be the usual committing to me then to him, then lapsing, and yo-yo for months like the stories I've read. But this over, like OVER. Like she hates him. Which is good because he hurt her, which means withdrawl should be easier and quicker and with no temptation to lapse...unless a different OM as you said.

But I'm aware that I shouldn't make things morve hourly.

She took a morning nap this morning after we dropp D3 at school and came home together. She was laying in my bed (our bed) and said that I must be tired too and should also take a nap. We were up late last night because D3 had some difficulties due to a cold she has.

I told her i have to get going to work. Also last night I went to lay in bed and read a book and relax. She came into my room (our room) twice to ask me what I was doing and whether I'm hiding.

While at workcc she mesaged me to tell me she's up. The message was "I'm up :)".

I just got home. She says she has a good idea of something we can do for new years and my birtbday. I told her I kinda had plans with friends. After she saI'd please let me take you out for your birrthday. This isbthe first time she has her own paycheck and wants to spend it on me. So i told her I would go with her if its that important to her. Not sure if that's giving in too easily but she seems to be trying, so I didn't want to be inaccessible. Plus my original plan was just a small gathering with some friends and I'd much rather go out for shopping and dinner and fireworks which is what she has planned.

Is that bad? It seems to soon, but at the same time it will be fun. And we've already been doing random things together anyway, so to insist on not going would be a out of character. Also, there won't be any hank panky because I she knows I won't catch an std just to get some.

We are limited to innocent together time which is actually kind of nice actually. You probably remeber that my sitch involved SSM with her being HD and honestly there was too much pressure to please her. At this time she knows that's impossible so it does allow us to move slowly and so she can't play that trick that they do where they sleep with you one time to make sure you are hooked again, theb resume their games

The phone call I overheard last night was a reminder that she is still a basket case. Shes still talking to her friends like she is a teenager. I know that's standard for people right out of an A so it doesn't surprise me, but it was a reality check that my old W is not back yet, and won't be for a while.

I need to keep her at least slightly entertained until the chemicals are flushed out. There won't be another OM because of her std unless its an emotional A. So keeping her around just enough by throwing her crumbs until it clears.... is that a good approach? Does that make sense?